Fortunately, we can change how we perceive
ourselves and how we relate to the stressors in our lives. We can acquire the
skills and the resources to deal with stress as a challenge and as a learning opportunity. (Ref: Patricia Norris, quoted in
Healers on Healing, Wellness at Work)
The bombing of the Sir Galahad was the most
pivotal point in my life. It dictated that my life would change, but to what
degree it changed was up to me, without even realising it I was the master of my destiny.
How I made sense of it, how I made use of it, how I moved forward was up to me . . . .
(Ref: Welsh Guardsman Simon Weston, Daily
Express 31st March 1999)
Your Body Believes Every Word You Say
We face many choices in the course
of a lifetime. We may not always be able to choose our circumstances but we have
freedom to choose how we feel about those circumstances. We can choose
to be upset, despairing, angry, and envious or happy, satisfied, and content. We
can ignore our feelings or listen to them and learn from them. Viktor Frankyl,
MD sheds light on the choices we each can make in his book, Mans Search for Meaning.
This book, a moving account of his incarceration in various Nazi concentration camps, also presents the basic concepts
of Logo Therapy a psychotherapy he developed and later refined as a result of those harrowing years in the camps. He wrote:
The experiences of camp life
show that man does have a choice of action. There were enough examples, often
of a heroic nature, which proved apathy could be overcome, irritability suppressed.
Man can preserve a vestige of spiritual freedom, of independence of mind, even in such terrible conditions of psychic
and physical stress. We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men
who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread.
They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that EVERYTHING CAN BE TAKEN FROM A MAN BUT ONE THING
THE LAST OF HUMAN FREEDOMS TO CHOOSE ONES ATTITUDES IN ANY GIVEN SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES, TO CHOOSE ONES OWN WAY. In the final analysis it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an
inner decision, and not the result of camp influences alone. Fundamentally therefore,
any man can, even under such circumstances, decide what shall become of him mentally and spiritually. (Ref: Viktor E. Frankyl
MD PhD, Mans Search for Meaning: An Introduction to Logo Therapy, Boston: Beacon Press 1962, P 65-66)
Richard Branson once said the only thing that stopped him doing all
of the things he wanted was himself . . . .
(Actress Francine Cohen Daily
Express Saturday Magazine Dec 27th 03)
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
is based on the theory that (stress, anxiety, depression) can be partly caused and maintained by negatively biased thinking
We are what we think;
that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the