perceptions not any objective reality govern your emotional response and resulting behaviour.
Perceptions are based on beliefs, assumptions, values and conditioning. You
can dramatically reduce your stress by changing your distorted perceptions. Our
distorted thinking can exaggerate our perceived shortcomings. We often paint
events much worse, than they actually are by our distorted thinking. This greatly
increases our stress. (CBT) concentrates on ways you can consciously alter your
negative thinking patterns. Changing the distorted perceptions that fuel negative
emotions, is an essential, effective stress management tool.
(Wellness at Work)
CBSM and Stress
Ellis basic thesis is that emotions have nothing to do with actual
events. Between the event and the emotion is realistic or unrealistic self-talk. The self-talk produces the emotions . . . .
(p108 The Relaxation and Stress Reduction